If you are a lesbian who has experienced abuse from another woman please know that you are not alone.
I am listing some online support groups on which other lesbian domestic violence survivors have posted their stories. Please reach out for help. You don't have to post if you don't want to. Please just read stories until you feel safe enough to share.
"I wish I would have been more aware what woman to woman sexual violence was--what it looked like--so that I might have acknowledged for myself what had happened to me, that I had been violated. I felt violated but didn't have words to put to the experience or the knowledge to put words to it. (Judy)"
Lesbian sexual abuse survivor support group. This is a very supportive and safe space. There is a section for partners of survivors.
LGBT safe space for survivors of sexual/physical/emotional abuse, assault & rape. Primarily Transgender f to m and m to f. Please read the lean on me forum.
If you want other stories of lesbian sexual assault you my read this thread on woman to woman assault. It is very graphic and triggering in some places so use caution.
Resources in your area- by area code -find an lgbt support group near you.
For supportive, non offending partners:
Hotline for Domestic Violence in the LGBTQ community/Linea de crisis 617-423-7233 v/tty firstname.lastname@example.org
24 hour Lesbian Therapist
To find an lgbt Medical Doctor click here for a referral.
Things you can read: Books on lesbian sexual assault
Girshick, L. B. (2002). Woman-to-woman sexual violence : does she call it rape? Boston: Northeastern University Press. Find this in a library
Lori B. Girshick has a research site as well.
Ristock, J. (2002). No More Secrets: Violence in Lesbian Relationships. New York: Routledge. Find this in a library
Renzetti, C. (1992). Violent Betrayal : Partner Abuse in Lesbian Relationships. Newbury Park, CA: Sage Publications. Find this in a library
Lundy, S. ; Leventhal, B. (1999). Same-Sex Domestic Violence : Strategies for Change. Palm Springs, Ca.: Sage Publications, Inc. Find this in a library
Lobel, K. (Ed.) (1986). Naming the violence: Speaking out about lesbian battering. Seattle, WA: Seal Press. Find this in a library
Kaschak, E. (2001). Intimate Betrayal: Domestic Violence in Lesbian Relationships. USA: Hawthorne Press. Find this in a library
Need to buy a book? try http://www.amazon.com
LGBT Domestic Violence Online Resources
"Woman-to-woman sexual violence is an invisible form of sexual violation because of our denial that women are sexual perpetrators and because violence among lesbians and bisexual women is hidden. But once we face that it exists--as sexual abuse and rape in battering relationships, as date and acquaintance rapes, as sexual abuse by professionals we trust, and as sexual harassment by co-workers--we must admit that our denial has sacrificed the well-being of survivors for the perpetuation of a myth."
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